Selective Honesty

Relationships require trust. Building trust requires forthrightness & honesty. Any time you choose to withhold information that could potentially impact the relationship, you are stealing your partner's choice and causing damage to the relationship. Withholding the information may seem like the right thing to do, because it might save your partner from pain, prevent an "unnecessary" argument, or keep your partner from thinking poorly of you. Really though, those withholdings start to chip away at the foundation of trust in the relationship, especially if your partner begins to learn of the inconsistencies in your stories. The result is really everything you were trying to avoid in the first place!! Arguments WILL ensue, your partner will be upset and your partner may start to become suspicious of your actions and motives.

So while it may seem easier in the short-term to withhold information from your partner, ultimately that act can snowball into something much more damaging to a relationship. Learn to be upfront with yourself and your partner in a productive way to maintain a healthy relationship.