The holidays are stressful for many people. You can either choose to linger onto the tension that was created by family, friends or loved ones, or you can learn from it and bring those lessons with you into 2010. Holding onto anger and becoming resentful of your partner doesn't provide you the space needed to foster a loving relationship. Take a look at what you can do differently when your partner begins to evoke negative feelings within you and realize you have the control to respond differently. You don't have to engage in an argument if you don't want to. You don't have to respond to your partner when you know you're being baited into conflict.
It's easy to think, "Sure... you say that, but if I don't respond they're going to get angry with me!" That may be true, but think of this...If you're about to get baited into an argument, then your partner is going to get angry anyway. So either way, the result is an angry partner. But it doesn't mean you have to get angry with them. Look at how you would choose to handle a situation and make a commitment to follow through with that choice. If a peaceful, sit-down discussion is your preference, but your partner isn't in the frame of mind to handle such an interaction, then do what you must to maintain your own boundaries. Your partner will either consider your feelings or they won't, but at least you will have maintained your level of integrity in the situation.
Happy New Year!!
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