Relationship Coaching Online

I've been on hiatus for a while. I'm now finding myself in a new era of helping others and have updated my blog profile to reflect as much. Rather than doing therapy, I'm now involved in a new way to deal with relationship challenges: Online Relationship Coaching. I find that this is a great way to provide relationship help to people all over the country in a fast, confidential way.

What's the difference between relationship coaching and therapy?

Relationship and couples therapy is an ongoing journey where you and the therapist meet on a regular basis to challenge the overall dynamics of your relationship. It's a longer term basis than coaching. Online coaching, on the other hand, is more about giving you advice, in short blocks of time, to solve a single issue within the context of your relationship. It is not therapy by any means, and not all issues are meant to be solved in this manner; however, it is a great place to start if you're not sure where to begin.

Is relationship coaching good for all relationship issues?

Absolutely not! If there is any kind of risk issues, such as suicidal thoughts, danger to others, abuse, domestic violence, alcohol & drug use, etc., it is best you work with a licensed professional face-to-face to get the support and help you need. Online coaching focus on specific issues within the context of intra- and interpersonal relationships. It's good for finding quick coping skills to short-term issues.

Where can I talk to you?

You can find me on RelationUP.com. I'm normally on there Monday through Thursday evenings. It is currently an app specifically for iPads and iPhones only (as a Android gal myself, I'm looking forward to their expansion to other platforms as well!). All the details, including costs, are on the website. It is easy to use and you have options to the Relationship Advisors you can "talk" to.


Anything else I should know?

All the information you need to know is on RelationUP.com, including costs, confidentiality, the differences of therapy and online coaching, etc.

In the meantime, I will be actively starting to blog once again. Please let me know what kind of articles and blog entries you would like to see and I'll be happy to make attempts to whip something up. I intend to leave all my past blog posts up and viewable as I believe they are all pertinent to relationships.

I look forward to reading your suggestions and feedback!

Listen to your Gut

Have you ever had a natural instinct to walk away from a bad situation, or jump on a great opportunity, but you remain stagnant because you're fearful of the unknown? Sometimes our gut, or inner voice, sends us loud signals to venture forth on a path than we expect or hope for. It can be as valuable as Pinocchio's "Jiminy Cricket" and usually won't lead you astray if you really listen to what it's trying to tell you and realize that you gut is letting you know how a given situation may be in your best interest, even if you cannot understand why in the moment, or may tell you to leave a bad event, even if you want to stay.

Listen to your gut... see what it has to tell you... it's a stronger force than you might believe.

Setting Boundaries

When your partner is continually treating you in a manner you find disrespectful, how do you handle it? Do you ask them stop? Do you throw out "threats" if they don't stop? Do you follow through with your consequences? If you feel like you're constantly asking over and again for your partner to cease the behaviors, but there's no consequences for their actions, then by what reason do they have to stop?

Sometimes, your decision NOT to take any action conveys a message to your partner that you're willing to tolerate (or even accept!) the negative behaviors. So what can you do? First, determine what you're willing to do if your partner treats you in a disrespectful way. Ignore the behavior? Disengage from the situation? And maybe even be willing to leave the relationship if the behaviors are extreme? Second, calmly let your partner know how their behaviors affect you and what you need to do to respect yourself. Then, follow through with what you decide if your partner doesn't respect your boundaries. It may be difficult, but consider this:

Why would someone respect your boundaries if you're not willing to respect yourself first?